Seven Questions - Angry Harry

31/12/02

Seven Questions Women Most Frequently Ask About Men

(...and the answers they don't want to hear)

Questions taken from the Courier Mail Nov 16

1. Why do men continually offer solutions and give advice?

A: Being more rational than women, men are naturally oriented to problem solving. This is what reason dictates. If a problem is posed, the natural response of the reasoning mind is to find and propose a solution. The female mind, being more emotional, has less interest and inclination to resolve problems; it is far more inclined to bathe in the waters of the emotion involved. Also, men offer advice to women because that's what women want and respond to. This dynamic indicates to the woman that the woman is valued (or at least, she thinks it does) and also allows the woman to take action without the burden of personal responsibility - they can simply act on the basis of advice given.

men, through the avenue of advice giving, present women with one of the greatest gifts that a woman could want

In this sense, men, through the avenue of advice giving, present women with one of the greatest gifts that a woman could want - a means by which to absolve themselves from responsibility for their actions.

The other, and perhaps less complicated reason for this behaviour in men is that men seek to dominate the world through mental action; women submit to the world and flow within its turbulence because they have no corresponding mental activity. Without the advice and problem solving of the males around them, most women would collapse into a pathetic heap. So, instead of asking why men continually offer solutions and give advice, women should ask themselves why they continually need it.

2. Why do men keep flicking through the channels with the remote control?

A: I can't say that I've noticed this to be an exclusively male behaviour, but the reason for it seems obvious: the vast majority of what's on television is so brainless, emotional and directed at women that men are forced to move about the channels just to escape it. It is a type of psychological defense mechanism.

Men do not "flick" when watching the news

Men do not "flick" when watching the news or their favourite sports event, for example. And any man who lives with a woman knows that it is predominantly her abode. If there is some evidence within the household that he lives there, he's pretty lucky. Given this, it could be that exercising territoriality over the television remote control is one of the few ways he has of expressing his existence in the environment.

3. Why don't men stop and ask for directions?

A: Independence of spirit and sense of personal responsibility; the deep desire to solve problems for themselves and the satisfaction that goes with having done so.

4. Why do men insist on leaving the toilet seat up?

A: Why do women insist of being concerned with such trivia? Why do women insist on leaving the toilet seat down? Why do women believe the world should be set up for their benefit? If men have to lift the seat up every time, why can't women put it down? If this is the sort of thing that women actually do most frequently ask about men, it is proof positive that women are hopelessly self-obsessed and mentally vacuous.

5. Why do men make such a fuss about going shopping?

A: Like everything they do in association with women, their souls are at stake! I'm not entirely sure what "fuss" means in this question, but I suspect it's another example of men wanting to get the job done and not waste hours of one's life browsing over things that are of no interest to him and which will never be bought anyway.

Men tend to hate window shopping.

Men tend to hate window shopping. Sure, they can browse for ages looking for the best hammer in the hardware store, but their approach is directed and specific. Women browse merely to indulge themselves. If a man needs a litre of milk, he can walk into a supermarket and just get the milk; the average woman quite likely won't be seen or heard from for the next hour or more. No wonder men make a "fuss". I know of few men who don't very soon repent of their decision to go shopping with a woman.

6. Why do men have such disgusting personal habits?

A: Women are far more obsessed with how they appear than are men, therefore women attend to issues of personal habits - at least in public circumstances - far more than men. But it all depends on one's perspective of what constitutes a disgusting personal habit. I can think of few personal habits more disgusting than that of spending an entire hour of one's life piling chemicals onto one's face in order to appear more "attractive", or that of filling the air with ridiculous odours and sprays.

Women are also more attuned to the immediate sensory environment than men, so women seek to control that environment more. This is why they have different standards for domestic cleanliness. Women are also far more concerned than men about what other people think of them, so they are always on the look-out for any misplaced element of their selves or their immediate environment.

Men are "slobs" because they don't care so much what people think

Men are "slobs" because they don't care so much what people think, because they are not as acutely attuned to their sensory environment as women, and also because they inhabit a far more abstract, intellectual world. And here is where the whole notion of disgusting personal habits takes on a new meaning. Men have tidier and more structured minds than women. Women's personal mental habits are about as disgusting as human behaviour gets. But no-one even talks about this area of human activity because it's not what females value. As usual, notions like "disgusting personal habits" is viewed almost entirely through the filters of feminine values. Maybe that's the most disgusting habit of all!

7. Why do men love gross jokes?

A: Men are more anti-social than women (i.e. they have a far greater capacity for the expression of individuality). Men like to push boundaries, defy conventional social moral mores.

Men like to express their identity by a show of dominance (in the form of defiance) of the dictates of the herd. Women dislike gross jokes because they are more "civilized".

Unfortunately, being more civilized means being more oppressed by one's need for relation to others; it means being more passive, submissive and dependent. And, of course, as with the last question, what constitutes a "gross" joke is always something determined by a woman.

31/12/02

The Seven Biggest Mysteries (supposedly) About Men

(...and the answers no-one wants to hear)

Genius News

Questions taken from the Courier Mail Nov 16

1. Why don't men know much about their friend's lives?

A: Men know as much as they need to know. Men come together in friendship as a consequence of shared values or interests; women as a consequence of a need for relation itself. Men have no need of the details of a friend's life beyond the context of those shared values or interests.

For a woman, knowing as much detail as possible about a friend's life is part of building an egotistically beneficial relationship. It also provides women with the ability to gossip, exploit, manipulate and express power. For women, the nitty gritty, mundane details of the everyday (i.e. the immediate) is predominantly what their lives are made of, so it is unsurprising that they would value this and want to have knowledge of it with respect to their friends.

Men, on the other hand, meet each other on a far more abstract and conceptual plane and those nitty gritty details of their more general lives are simply irrelevant to this.

2. Why do men avoid commitment?

A. Clearly, men do not avoid commitment. Men express commitment everyday across a whole spectrum of life matters. What women are really saying when they ask this question is: "Why do men avoid commitment to us?"

Also, they are saying that commitment to them is really the only kind of commitment that matters. Men make a commitment to careers, politics, sports, principles an so forth all the time.

It is surely one of the most perfect expressions of female vanity that a seeming unwillingness to commit to them on the part of men, signifies a general avoidance of commitment. That in itself is good reason for men to be wary of commitment to a female.

Who wants to commit themselves to a creature who apparently believes herself to be God's gift to the universe, something inherently valuable and utterly magnetic?

Men resist commitment to women ... because it represents the potential loss of their freedom;

Men resist commitment to women - to the degree that they even really do - because it represents the potential loss of their freedom; of their individuality which they value highly and which women don't even comprehend. In short, men know the difference between commitment and - capitulation!

3. Why do men feel the need to be right about everything?

A. Well, I'm more interested in why women don't! Could it have something to do with conscience and responsibility?

Certainly a man's need to be right about things because he has a conscience about being wrong, is tainted by an egotistical need to dominate, but this is surely preferable to the egotistical need to be passive with respect to the meaningfulness of what one is expressing.

Women don't like to be held to account, therefore they have no concern for being right about anything

Women don't like to be held to account, therefore they have no concern for being right about anything, for to claim rectitude is to place oneself squarely in a position of responsibility, possibly even blame. We perceive men as being arrogant in this respect and women as being reasonable and open-minded. The truth is far other than this, however.

The need to feel that one is right about things is in fact an entirely noble feeling, so long as it is accompanied by a conscience and a willingness to concede error when it's pointed out.

Women avoid the whole dynamic entirely. They blissfully spew out opinions on everything and everyone, yet never feel the touch of the burden of conscience or responsibility, because, well, they never feel that they are necessarily right in their opinions.

Only a woman would place a negative connotation on wanting to be right.

This is part of the reason that hardly any woman in history has achieved anything of worth in areas like philosophy and science. There must come, at some point, a willingness to say that one is right about something; a willingness to stand up and be counted and to be held to account. Only a woman would place a negative connotation on wanting to be right.

4. Why are grown men so interested in boys' toy's?

A. Men don't entirely lose the curious, adventurous, effervescent life of boyhood. Women think of this as a form of immaturity, but that is because women are basically dead in spirit and have been almost the entirety of their lives.

So-called "boys' toys" often present two things that the male mind relates to: physical and mental challenges and the ability to imagine, to go places in the mind, to dream and idealise. Since women largely lack a mental life, they have no means by which to relate to this dimension of maleness. It is sometimes difficult to come to terms with the depth of unconsciousness women have with respect to the world they inhabit. If it weren't this "boyishness" in men, this sense of dreaming, adventure and creativity, the civilisation which women take for granted would probably never have eventuated.

5. Why can men only seem to do one thing at a time?

A. The male mind is designed for penetration and focus. This enables men to achieve great things within specific spheres of life. It is precisely why almost all the great thinkers, scientists, artists etc of history have been men. The multi-tasking of the female mind most certainly has its value, but it is not suited to the realm of serious philosophic thought.

6. Why are men so addicted to sport?

A. Men value sport, either on the basis of the personal challenge it represents to them, or because they can relate in a vicarious fashion to the structure, logic and challenge that sporting activity represents.

Personal challenge seems to be something of an anathema to a great many women; it seems not to be a natural part of the feminine psyche.

The elements of sport speak to the nature of the male psyche, which is why most sports have been created by men. It means challenge, struggle, overcoming. These things are much less apparent as values in the female psyche, which is why we see in tennis, for instance, that when a woman is losing a match she usually falls in a complete heap and the score-line looks something like 6-4 6-1 6-0.

Male players who may possibly be quite out of their depth will nevertheless rise to the occasion and make a battle of it, perhaps even, through sheer brute determination and focus, prevail over a "better" opponent.

Once again, if it wasn't for this dimension of the male psyche, civilisation as we know it, and as women enjoy it, wouldn't exist.

7. What do men really talk about in the rest room?

A. That's simple enough - nothing. For men toilets are for pissing and sh*tting, not for undertaking various forms of social discourse.

Some men may pass a few words between them when standing at a urinal, especially if it's a urinal in a pub and they've been there some time, but they do not venture into rest rooms in groups and sit on the wash basin benches and gossip and natter.

Men respect each other's individual space.

Talk about your disgusting personal habits! Women really can't do anything on their own. Being of a more solitary nature, men don't feel the need to be constantly engaging other men just for the sake of it. Men respect each other's individual space. Women constantly network. Relation is their raison d'être.

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